It’s often during healing that self-doubt creeps in, because on the other side of healing is great power.  An injury or sickness is like an initiation or call to action.  What is required of you to make a change? What actionable steps do you need to commit to in order to change your current trajectory for the better?

When it comes to positive change, most people wish they were stronger, leaner, resilient etc. Yet, most people are happy to continue with their status quo.  This complacency is so common because it’s easier.  The truth is this:  It is very uncomfortable to make changes in the body. The process is gradual and the chance of quitting is high.

Success is highly dependent on how accountable you are to make it happen.

In my practice, I give my patients the tools to discover how they can layer in regular self-care to support their healing.  I even prescribe personalized exercise videos they can access via the app Physitrack on their smart devices.  Despite this, compliance is not always stellar.

Success in healing lies in how badly you really want it and how much you believe that you deserve it.

This is perhaps why the self-care, self-love and self-development industry is quite lucrative. Many of us will research, but few of us will implement. Think of the ways you avoid action to make a positive change in your life.  I know that I often skip going to the gym, don’t always take my vitamins, sometimes skip out on brushing my teeth after putting my kids to sleep….the list goes on and I accept the consequences.

This year however, I am taking the reigns on my accountability and making small actionable steps achievable to improve my sleep, my brain power, my creative drive, my strength and flexibility so that I can be of service to my family and to the world.

So realize this: healing is messy. It’s a stop and go journey. There will be successes and there will be relapses. It is after all, part of being human.  So as you continue on this messy journey of healing, just know that on the other side of it is a great story that you will one day be proud of sharing.

I can’t wait to hear it.

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It is often emphasized that balance is the key to good health, but really balance in the sense that all aspects in life have an equal part of your “energy pie” never happens.  The the amount of energy that you give to each part changes in ratio with each day or season of life.  For example, when I was a student, most of my waking hours were dedicated to being in class and studying. Socializing, housework, saving money, etc. took a very small portion of my energy. Is that bad? Not really. It’s realistic for that moment in time. Is it balanced? No. But was I healthy? Yes, as much as I could for that moment.

Similarly, in my phase of being a mother to two young children I am content if on top of keeping my kids  happy and healthy that I can get in two days of exercise per week, sleep 4-5 hours a night , eat regularly, connect with my husband and keep my business afloat. Isn’t that nuts? Yes! It’s hard for me to swallow sometimes, but it’s as balanced as I can be for the time being. (Also note that housework didn’t even make the list).

So really, balance is elusive. Priorities shift and chaos ensues. The key to staying afloat of this chaos is the feeling and connection with being grounded.

Grounded? What the heck is that?

I would argue that most people do not even recognize that they are not grounded. Being grounded means having complete control of your breath, not being emotionally connected to the possibility of failing and having a consistent positive outlook on life. I’m touch and go with being grounded and currently I am working towards getting back there.

For me, I know I’m grounded when I can feel the ground beneath my feet. I get this feeling after a chiropractic adjustment or a yoga/pilates class. It’s very important for you to have the kinesthetic awareness of the ground beneath your feet. It means you feel stable. This stability is both figurative and literal.

I can empathize with my shallow breathing patients who feel like a “chicken running around with their head cut off”. Their minds are racing and they feel like a helium balloon floating away, disconnecting from the earth and their bodies.

Shallow breathers, return to belly breathing

Shallow breathing happens when your adrenaline is activated. Think of your adrenaline as your body’s internal espresso machine or “Red Bull”. Inherently, we have this mechanism to react to life-threatening dangers, but in the modern world we activate this hormone to meet deadlines, apease relationships and satisfy material needs. Ideally, adrenaline should be used transiently until the resolution of the stressor, however most people maintain adrenaline levels until it turns into complete disconnection with your body and eventual burn out.

Please acknowledge this: Constant shallow breathing leads to chronic tension in the neck, chest and shoulder muscles, dysfunctional ribs and anxiety. Like hyperventilating, your head is floating away like a helium balloon. Only you can keep yourself from flying away.

Pull that string

Bring yourself back to the ground by doing the following:

  1. Belly breathing:  As you inhale, your abdomen should be relaxed and your belly button should move away from your spine. Shoulder and neck muscles should be relaxed and stop gripping your jaw, eyebrows, fist, hips etc. There’s no reason for the tension!
  2. Meditate: Visualize the connection of your feet to the ground. Imagine the helium ballon returning to the rest of your body. Use whatever imagery, (ex. creating roots from your feet into the soil) that makes sense.
  3.  Go outside. Be present. Walk barefoot and feel the breeze against your face. City people spend too much time in front of machines.
  4. Get body work. See a chiropractor, massage therapist, osteopath, acupuncture or whomever you feel comfortable to help you release tension and reconnect with your body. 
  5. Move. Take a yoga or pilates class  or move in any way that nurtures your soul. Stretch and strengthen.
  6. Practice Gratitude. Be grateful for what your daily victories are instead of what the holes in your list are that need to be accomplished.
  7.  Acknowledge that balance is not the key
  8. Acknowledge that being GROUNDED is the answer.

I hope this helps.